I recently met up with some of my Fashion School Friends for dinner and drinks at pasta bar. The food was okay (probably too healthy for my taste buds) and the ambience was intimate and candlelit. I was introduced to some interesting and exotic new foods, but what intrigued me the most about the dinner was the conversation. Living in a such diverse and multicultural city, I'm very accustomed to other people's perspectives and customs.
Canada might not be the most exciting place to live, but it has it's merits. It's times like these when I truly value the freedom I have here. Relative freedom from judgement, stigma, conformity, tradition, if you so choose to be free of course. For example, some of the girls were talking about the judgement they face going back to school after not being able to find a job in their original field of study. Another person explained the strict norms and taboos surrounding relationships in their country of origin. They also talked about the pressures to conform, and be accepted. Of course people judge and compare themselves to each other here as well and there are pros and cons to living in theses types of societies for sure.
It's hard for me to relate to and that might be because I'm older than they are, but I'm at a point in my life where I'm not too concerned about fitting in or what people think of me, how I talk, act, dress, eat...I would never say I'm mature, but I have enough experience to value my self for who I am now. I'm not perfect, I have my moments, but I no longer hate my life, pity myself or worry too much about other people's judgement. I had to learn to stand up for myself because there were people who would take advantage of me being nice and submissive all the time.
People will either like you for you, like you for their own gain, or hate you. So you might as well just be true to your self. I know this is all sounding too cliche, but not everyone knows how to change their way of thinking, I certainly had to learn the hard way. A lot of people are going through life in denial about who they really are, I know I was for the longest time. But life is way too short to waste time being someone else or wait to be the person you want to be later. So that's my one little pearl of wisdom, I don't have a lot, so please don't forget it.
-Puja
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